hey guys!!
trying to get back into posting at least once a day... lets see if we can do it. so here's a quick update on some of the drama currently going on. so basically there's this friend group in my dorm that i'm sort of a part of but also trying to distance myself from. they keep making comments about how i think of them as my backup friends because i also hang out with other people, which confuses me because there's 3,000+ kids in my grade here and its only the second week... anyway they keep making comments like that and they are sort of a little weird. i'm still nice to them and i spend time with them when i can, i just think some of them don't like me because i'm not as committed to the friend group as some people are. also my roommate is in this group, and i don't spend a lot of time with her because of some of the things she does (read previous posts to learn more!). also, in all of my stories i don't use people's actual names for the sake of privacy.
anyway so my roommates name is Caroline. there's another girl in the group who she's gotten very close with named anna. and there's also a guy in the friend group named James, who isn't the only guy but is the only straight guy. so caroline hit it off with james and they were very flirty and got together one time and have been continuing to talk. but recently, james and anna have been getting closer, which my roommate caroline has not been too happy about. they spend time one on one together, will dance together at functions, and are somewhat flirty with each other. keep in mind, anna has a boyfriend back at home who she's been with for a year now. so last night i ended up hanging out with the dorm friend group in someones dorm. caroline has my location and had seen that i had just gotten back to our room so she ran down to come get me to hang out with all of them, and i asked her if everything was ok. she told me no, and explained that shes's upset because james and anna have been spending so much time together, which is the reason i suspected. we go up to the friends dorm and anna and james are of course there, dancing with each other (not in a relationship way, it could totally be seen as friendly but also still made caroline uncomfortable) so caroline was just not really talking to anyone and sitting on the floor and i felt bad. eventually she went to the bathroom, and right when that happened anna and james left together to go get something from someone elses dorm. i texted caroline to give her a heads up, and when she came back to our friends dorm and she wanted to leave. i ended up saying i had to do homework because i was trying to help her get out of there, and she was going to facetime her friend to talk about the situation.
anyway so i get back to the dorm and she's in our floor longue calling her friend, so i go to the bathroom. when i come back from the bathroom, caroline is sitting on her bed crying because she's so upset. her friend who she called was a guy, and said that james and anna's behavior was weird and she needs to keep an eye out. she also shared with me that james hadn't texted her all day. i sat on her bed with her while she cried and i talked to her and hugged her. i genuinely felt awful because she said this happened a year ago with her ex who she was with for 2 years, he cheated on her with a girl in a relationship who caroline thought she didn't have to worry about, and i understand being anxious from that situation. i told her she should talk to anna because the relationship she has with her is more valuable than the relationship she has with James, and that if he's not interested anymore she won't be able to change his mind. while i do think anna has been rude towards me, i dont want their friendship to end over a guy. someone told me they saw caroline and anna go to the gym together this afternoon, so hopefully everyone is ok.
that's all i have for now i will keep you guys updated!! there's currently sirens outside and we've had a lot of ambulances come to our dorm building so i'm going to investigate. hoping everything is ok.
luv.xoxo
I 100% agree with what you said. If someone likes a person, you cannot change their mind, yes, it's sad but it's the truth. And like you said, I rather vouch for a year's long friendship than a guy I just met. But also, I feel like she (Anna) should have said something to her friend about her feelings for him, and she could have gotten a clearer understanding of "Carolines" intentions, which in TURN, gets rid of all the possible confusion. Either way, college is weird and messy, but hopefully everything is all good now.
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